What to expect when starting therapy?

Starting therapy is a big deal, it is such a wonderful step to take for you! 

Some of us have had previous therapy, some helpful experiences and some unhelpful maybe. Some of us are completely new! Here are some thoughts about what to expect.

First of all, it is really important to remember that therapy is for YOU. So when you first meet a psychologist what really matters is how safe, heard and understood you feel. That is what should determine if you continue with this person or not. Safety is the treatment, and is what makes healing possible.

1️⃣ **Initial Nervousness**: People are often feeling anxious when they first meet a psychologist. That is completely understandable and expected. I often feel nervous when I meet a new person I’m going to work with too. Just know that you are welcome just as you are. My main focus is to create a safe, non-judgmental space for you.

2️⃣ **Collaboration*: You don’t have to do this alone or have everything worked out before you come to your first session, or the other ones for that matter. You can expect the psychologist to support you by asking gentle and curious questions and perhaps make reflections, that helps you to find your way in the conversation. I really want to meet you where you are. 

3️⃣ **Awareness**: Sometimes the first sessions supports you to become aware of what feels important to you and why you actually booked the first session in the first place. Often, we will formulate a loose map of what might be going on for you and what has led you here. 

4️⃣ **Shifts**: Sometimes there are big “aha” moments when pieces fall into place, more often there are small steady changes that happen over time and all of a sudden somethings make sense. The safer you feel the more you will be able to discover, but all in time. Remember that things come into your awareness because you are ready to know about it. It’s not always easy, but that is probably why you reached out for therapy in the first place.

5️⃣ **Consistency is Key**: Positive change takes time. Be patient and commit to your journey.

6️⃣ **Practicalities**: When you contact me we might have a 10 minutes phone call to ensure that I am going to be the person for you and that I can support you, in a way that you want to be supported. We then schedule an appointment and I will send you a zoom link a few days before. We will discuss payments when we meet.